There is a Choice in Front of All of Us

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I have written about how a new world can emerge from this global crisis–how we are seeing more kindness, compassion and love in the world. The new normal, for most of us, is being off the hamster wheel–giving us time to do the things that find the “we” in things–ways we can do what is best for the higher good.  Apart but together.

Those who are working even harder than before are our heroic healthcare workers, our delivery people, our mail carriers, and the folks working in our grocery stores. Our state governors are working hard to keep people safe, making hard decisions to ensure that fewer people are exposed to this serious virus. Our own state governor tirelessly keeps us informed and does so much, along with those in his administration, to help flatten the curve, so we will have fewer people stricken, fewer people dying. My heart is full of much gratitude for all these people.

For those of us at home, off the hamster wheel, there is time to look at our lives.  The new normal has required new ways of doing things.  Simplifying–looking at the things that we thought we needed so much and are doing without (easier than maybe we thought).  We’re finding a new normal with the time to be a support (even if it is just to make a phone call to check in on someone, letting them know you are thinking of them), or discovering creative ways to express support and love–online or through writing. There is time to cook food at home,  look at inventive ways to use resources, conserve, read, write, pray, meditate, examine what is really important in our lives, say, “I love you,” and do self-care to keep ourselves healthy.

Within the new normal is a new world emerging of love, service, care, compassion, kindness, generosity, and wholeness–more connectedness. We are all in this together.

When things eventually (and, hopefully, safely) start opening up again in the world, let’s not go back to the old normal. No please.  During this time there has been a huge opportunity for all of us to create a new world. The old normal was a world where people were so focused on the hamster wheel that there wasn’t this kind of compassion, caring, love, gratitude and generosity expressed so freely by so many.  There wasn’t this kind of creativity used in service to others.  The old normal was a focus on oneself. On consuming and consumerism.  What was the newest thing to buy, to have, to experience? The old “business as usual” was broken. The gap is wider than it has ever been between the haves and have nots. Many times the best part of us took a backseat to the bottom line.

When things gradually and safely start opening up, let’s keep the new normal–our personal discoveries in simplicity, in caring, in serving, in sharing, in giving. Together we can get through this and create a new world where we are better people, a better humanity. There is a choice in front of each of us. I’m choosing the new normal, a new world in which love, compassion, kindness, and generosity flow freely . What about  you?

© Copyright 2020, Mary Claire O’Neal

Mary Claire O’Neal author of the award-winning book, Becoming What You Want to See in the World.

A New World Emerging Based on Love and Kindness

Global Communication Network (World Map Credits To NASA)Everywhere there is an outpouring of love, kindness, unity and sharing.  We’re finding that in the vital and very important social distancing, we can unite our hearts together and help one another. We can reach out to others over the internet, social media, phones–even offering to leave food/groceries on doorsteps of those who need it. We are using our creativity to sing to others from our balconies, offer free live concerts from our homes, or give free tutorials online in painting or even easily crafting a face mask.  Even in the necessary isolation and social distancing (and even because of it), the interconnectedness of all things is so apparent.

Those who are serving all of us in healthcare in every country are giving so much for the common good–at high costs to themselves.  They need our love, our patience and our support. Those who are working on supplying food in our groceries and are delivering our packages are sacrificing for the common good and need our love, patience and kindness. Those who are having to self-isolate need our love and support– a phone call to check in or some needed supplies on the doorstep.

Let’s all try to find ways we can be of service. Be a part of this emerging new world based on love and kindness. Feeding hope and positivity over the internet and social media is a service of love.  Sharing practical tips that you’ve discovered at home to better use resources is a service of love. Calling someone just to see how they are and chat is a service of love.  Making people laugh with humor spreads opportunities for much needed balance during stressful times.

We always have been in this together, and this time puts a bright light on how we can do better, be better, love better.

There is time to reflect on what’s really important and how to find the “we” in things, instead of just the “me or mine” of things.

Together we can get through this and a newer, more loving world can emerge. Together we can be greater.

More than ever before Gandhi’s words are so true and important:

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

Be well. Be love.

Love to all,

Mary Claire

© Copyright 2020,  Mary Claire O’Neal

Mary Claire O’Neal is the author of the award-winning book, Becoming What You Want to See in the World.

Cognitive neuroscience: (Part 1) Awareness is everything

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Being the change you wish to see in the world.

This is the beginning of a series of articles designed to be read quickly during your busy day with at least one practical tip for you to try. I always remind my clients that there is no one way to do anything. You might find that this article series sparks off some ideas of your own to be more aware of how you are focusing your thoughts, emotions and energy. If you would like to share them with others, please do in the comment section below this article.

Awareness of our thoughts is at least 95% of making a change in what and where we are focusing our energy. Functioning in “automatic pilot” is one of the largest obstacles in the way of creating positive experiences like success, fulfillment and balance on a daily basis. It’s easy to lose passion for something that has become a rut because we are no longer bringing our awareness and, therefore, creativity to it. In each moment is the opportunity to make it magnificent.

Slowing down just enough to listen to that still, small voice within will help connect with the inner compass of one’s unique talents and values (instead of taking them for granted). Brilliance, happiness and balance can follow when making aware choices in the moment of what thoughts we choose to entertain and navigate us through life.

Tip#1: Instead of starting the day with the news or getting online, try planning first thing into your morning 20 to 30 minutes of time to get your day focused in a positive frame of mind.  I found that getting up 30 minutes earlier was what I needed to have that quiet time to meditate, write down gratitudes and review my “to do” list, prioritizing items for work, home/family, and service in the world (volunteer work for my favorite non-profit or in the community, for example). Doing this first–even before exercising and breakfast really gets the day off to a positive, clear, energetic start. I feel ready and prepared for my day.

© Copyright 2016, Mary Claire O’Neal

Mary Claire O’Neal is a certified coach, communication/leadership consultant, Heartmath® Certified Trainer and Coach and is the author of the award-winning book, Becoming What You Want to See in the World.

Thank you, Wayne Dyer

MC Sun-Forrest-istock-MediumThank you, Wayne Dyer, for a life well-lived in wisdom and love. Thank you for sharing your insights with the world and showing that love is the most powerful force there is. Your intelligence, courage, and wisdom will be missed.  Through those you touched with your message of love, you helped make the world a better place. Please join me in celebrating his life and his new adventure.

“I see death as simply removing a garment

or moving from one room to another . . .

It’s merely a transition.”  

— Dr. Wayne Dyer